It seems like this year’s Christmas buying build up has been slightly more muted than previous years. I don’t know if it’s within a climate of malaise over events happening in the world or just the general unaffordability of everyday life, but somehow it seems like there’s been less of a gluttonous present-buying frenzy and a stronger move towards the holiday being about gathering with family and friends and for everyone to find an approach to this season that feels meaningful and right to them.
I don’t personally celebrate Christmas, which takes any pressure of preparing for it out of my hands, including the quest to find the perfect presents for people. But with regards to gifts – my birthday unceremoniously falling right after Christmas – I can honestly say that the best gifts I’ve received – and try to give – are those that show a true degree of thoughtfulness. The gift can be small or maybe not even an item, but a helpful act or kind gesture. For me, the value of these can’t be underestimated because it demonstrates a real connection with another person and seeing them for who they truly are, what is meaningful to them and the importance they bring to your lives.
The best thing about such gifts is that we can all give and receive them, not just on a particular day but every day. We can choose to be less judgmental and to not respond with anger or impatience. We can choose to acknowledge and respect one another and to have compassion for each other’s challenges and imperfections. We can also learn to appreciate each and every person that helps us in our lives in whatever small way – from bus drivers, to cleaners and shop assistants, to our family, neighbours, colleagues and friends that help and support us in so many ways and yet we so often take for granted.
What a difference it would make if we really showed our appreciation and gratitude in our daily encounters. What if we could smile at people more, thank people more earnestly and help out wherever we can. Such acts, however small, may just be the gift another person is needing to receive. There is truly nothing more valuable than a gift of kindness, consideration, empathy and compassion, always available and universally welcome.
Happy holidays everyone. May they be gentle and full of love, peace and understanding. ❤️